In Which We Visit Prison

Gentle Reader, a lot of people don’t seem to know that I have an older sister, or had an older brother. They were teenagers when my parents married*; I wasn’t born until a year or two later. My brother, D, was in and out of trouble in those tumultuous teenage years, and into his twenties. A great deal of trouble.


He got sent to prison, in fact†. By his step-father. This improved their relationship dramatically, I’m sure.

He was first incarcerated when I was five – about the time I started kindergarten, in fact. At the time, I just thought he was going to some special big-boy school, and didn’t quite understand why he didn’t come home in the evenings. After a year or two, I could read, and read – for the very first time – of boarding school, in The Chronicles of Narnia. When I asked my parents why D was in boarding school and I wasn’t, they weren’t amused. They didn’t understand that I wasn’t joking – I was jealous.


That may have been why they finally decided to take me to visit my brother, in prison. The women’s prison for the state was in our humble hamlet; unfortunately, the men’s facility was a two-hour drive away. A squalling six-year-old on a road-trip of that sort, and duration? Pleasant for nobody. My parents undertook it gladly, though – it was a necessary task.

We arrived, entered, were frisked. I thought that the metal-detectors were great fun. My father had to use his patented, signature glare on me – the guards were in no mood to deal with frisky children, and he was in no mood to deal with the sort of trouble I could have gotten into.


We were escorted to what was essentially a large telephone booth. If you’re unfamiliar, there’s a formica half-counter, on which to lean and a plastic chair of the sort you would find in a middle-school cafeteria. Through the tinted, dim, window you can vaguely discern your friend or loved one’s features. There is a phone-booth style handset hanging to your left, that only dials one number.

You are permitted thirty minutes.

This is not enough time, when constantly interrupted by a child’s chatter.


My father was trying to discuss important things, like lawyer’s fees and parole. I wanted to tell D all about my new puppy and also this thing that Teacher said and also also about this picture I drew and maybe I will write you a story in class, D!

I like to think that D took comfort in the ease that I took in his incarceration. I was never bothered by it, nor judged him for it – it was simply what was happening at the time. I loved my big brother, and that was the end of the story.

We visited him a few times after that, after I understood that he wasn’t having adventures in magical boarding schools. Sometimes, if you show up on the correct day, they even let you meet in a large white common room, reminding you of nothing so much as the dining hall of a hospital. My brother taught me to play chess in this sterile, cheerless, environment; I was seven or eight. Over the course of our next several visits, I gradually improved; I was very proud the first time I beat him.


Eventually, he was released, and got his life straightened out – and he kept it pretty level, until he passed away. The family doesn’t much speak of his time in prison, not wanting to speak ill of the dead – I think that it’s important to acknowledge these things. After all, I spent time in prison as a child.


*My father knocked a girl up back in the Sixties, when he was seventeen (she was sixteen). They married, had two children and a white picket fence, were together many years, and were miserable. It ended badly. He married my mother when my sister (the elder) was about 14 or 15; my brother was 13.

†You’re too polite to inquire, but I know you’re wondering: He was imprisoned for stealing and forging checks of his stepfather’s. He was 18 or 19.

About Ty DeLyte

Madame DeLyte has suffered a grave disappointment - YET AGAIN - and still believes that freedom, beauty, and truth are what's valuable, rather than vulgar cash. He'd add love to that list - but, well, what can he say about love?
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2 Responses to In Which We Visit Prison

  1. selkielady says:

    My step dad has been in and out of prison. He’s about to head back in for a good long while. He’s had a third conviction and won’t take the DA’s plea bargain which is 15 years. The judge wants to give him 25 to life. I’m sorry your brother passed away. ❤ That's really hard.

  2. nataliedeyoung says:

    This is a very well-told story. I’m sorry about your brother.
    Sometimes I wonder what my younger sister will remember about me being a drunk, then in rehab…

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